Kailey Carter-Zitterkopf, she/her, ICASDV Boise, ID. The crisp fall air is bringing me joy today.

Anna S(she/ her), Dayton, Ohio, the weather today!

Karen Tronsgard-Scott, She/her, Vermont Network Against Domestic and Sexual Violence and the Masters in Restorative Justice Program, Vermont Law School

Hello - Rita Flores, TX Council on Family Violence - she, her

Hi all! Sarah Bear, she/her, I'm in Philly but work in Delaware, and I'm happy for smell of lavender

Hi everyone! My name is Megan (she/her) I’m with the California Partnership to End Domestic Violence in Sacramento, CA. One thing that brought me joy were my freshly picked tomatoes from my garden on avocado toast!

Cortney Calixte (she/her), VSDVAA Richmond, VA, An impromptu video call with co-workers

Haleigh she/her. ICESAHT, Indianapolis. ancestral land of the Myaamia and Kiikapoi people. I’m listening while exercising and that makes me

saludos! Jacquie Marroquin (she/her) from Sacramento, CA. quiet morning coffee time brings me joy.

Adrienne Ramcharan, she/her, JDI, Boston, MA. Doing yoga for the first time in months brought me joy today

happy! whoops, sent too soon.

Cat Fribley (she/her) and the sun that is peeking out here in Iowa City for the first time in days is bringing me great joy

Nafla. she/hers. Preventionist at IowaCASA in Des Moines. getting to pull out my coziest of winter scarves and sweaters.

Hello folks! My name is Derek Nettingham (He/Him/His), tuning in from Chicago! Listening to old school Reggae made me happy this morning (Lucky Dube, Bob Marley)

Brooke Ophardt, Training & Prevention Specialist, DCADV

Joi Smith, she/her/hers, New Hampshire, watching the exciting variety of birds at our bird feeder brought me joy this morning.

Hi everyone! Krista (she/her) with the CA Partnership to End Domestic Violence. The clear air and blue skies after all the wildfires is bringing me joy

Hey Ya'll- Karimah from the GA Coalition Against Domestic Violence and big ups to Susana Baca!!! :)

Rebecca Bax, Missouri KidsFirst, the Missouri Chapter of Child Advocacy Centers, PCA - MO Chapter, and Administrators of the SAFE-CARE Network.

Laura (she/her) from Pennsylvania, and this gorgeous weather is bringing me joy

saludos! Jacquie Marroquin (she/her) from Sacramento, CA. quiet morning coffee time brings me joy.

Hi! Amber Barcel, she/her, with WA State Coalition Against DV in Seattle. I'm about to eat Korean food which always brings me joy.

Good morning! Marsela (she/her) CALCASA in Los Angeles. One thing that brought me joy today…realizing it’ll be under 70 this weekend!

Sue Osthoff, she/her, National Clearinghouse for the Defense of Battered Women … the lovely warm weather.

Jennifer Kirkpatrick she/her with the Nebraska Coalition to End Sexual and Domestic Violence. The glorious aroma from my essential oils I have close to my work space.

Kathleen Lockwood she/her from NC Coalition Against Domestic Violence. I'm loving the sunny day we have today.

Megha Rimal (she/her/hers), The Center for Family Safety and Healing in Columbus, OH. I had a really good meal this afternoon.

Kaye Michalak, she/her, I slept well

Katherine, she/her, Ohio Domestic Violence Network, Megha being here makes me happy!

(Oops! And located in the seattle area, but busy and hectic morning, hopefully it'll pick up)

Laura, she/her, from Team NNEDV here in DC, and I have the windows open and it's delightful!

Chany she/her GCADV, Atlanta, my dog is giving me joy today after a long day of zoom bombing she is now sleeping in my lap!

Monica McLaughlin, she/her, NNEDV; joy was my daughter's snuggles this morning

So happy to be in virtual community with you all. Thanks for bringing us all together! D. Fox (she.her.they.them)NNEDV

Oh - what brings me joy? Flipping the Senate in 12 days.

Hello, Anisa Ali (she/her), Futures Without Violence

Hello! Tamara (she/her) YWCA of Greater Portland. My coffee is really delicious this morning and that makes me happy :)

Hi there! I'm Jessica Merrill from the California Partnership to End Domestic Violence (she/her/hers), coming to you from the Bay Area in California. I'm happy & grateful to learn from each panelist.

Hello, Anisa Ali (she/her), Futures Without Violence

David Lee, Him/He, California Coalition Against Sexual Assault

Colleen Coble (she/her). Missouri Coalition Against Domestic and Sexual Violence.

Natasha Beals, Chicago, IL she, her, hers and getting my hair done today made me very happy.

Kim Carpenter. she/her Nebraska Coalition to End Sexual & Domestic Violence. I love this topic. THANK YOU!

Hi folks! Kate McCord (she/they) from Williamsburg, VA. Lots of joy taking our puppy for his first bike ride (in a basket) this weekend.

Baseball brings be joy!

WOHOOO Shoutout to Prof. Hassan!!!

Hannah Moore (they/them) from Safe Connections in St. Louis. My new slipper socks are bringing me joy today!

Emma Koch, she/her, UChicago, getting joy from zoom sessions with distant friends

Hello! Abigail Compernolle she/her, UChicago and the beautiful sunshine today. So grateful to be here

Good afternoon (and morning!), all! Kate Easter (she/her), Maine Coalition to End Domestic Violence, here in far northern Maine. My joy for today is having watched an eagle soaring over the fields adjacent to my home.

Graciela Olguin (they/them) Futures Without Violence in San Francisco CA. The sun shining in through my window on my plants - and instant ramen with green peas and pan fried spam is bringing me joy currently

Molly, she/her, UChicago, saw a very cute dog on my lunchtime walk today

Yay Kassamira!

So happy to see you Beth and Alisa. This is #BlackFeministJoy for me.

Hi everyone! Corbin (they/she/he) here from NNEDV. Today the tall Eucalyptus tress disappearing into the morning bay fog brought me joy.

Hola amigxsMonica Dennis (she/her)from Move to End Violenceunceded Lenape-Canarsie territory aka Brooklyn, NY -Finding joy in the multi-colored trees outside of my window

Hey, amazing people! Kris Billhardt (she, her) from the National Alliance for Safe Housing here. Today's sunshine in Portland and that tomorrow is Friday are both bringing me joy.

If you have any questions for our panelists please use the Q&A feature at the bottom of your zoom screen or share them here in the chat.

Oops only sent this to the panelists before...

Ellen Richmond, she/her, also at UChicago and would love to connect with the rest of you!

Hola amigxsMonica Dennis (she/her)from Move to End Violenceunceded Lenape-Canarsie territory aka Brooklyn, NY -Finding joy in the multi-colored trees outside of my window

Laura, she/her, from Team NNEDV here in DC, and I have the windows open and it's delightful

love this

Hi, Leah (she/her), from UChicago, and walking my dog has brought me joy today

Aloha everyone, my name is Brittany (she/her), I work with NRCDV, and I’m based in Baltimore.

My cat Leo brings me joy every day <3

Greetings Kindred, my name is Aishah Shahidah Simmons (queer she/her), #LoveWITHAccountability (& NO! The Rape Documentary) from unneeded Piscataway and Anacostan territory aka DC. Happy to be here.🙌🏾♥️💥

Ky (She/Her) I work at Above and Beyond Family Recovery

Warm greetings Aishah! Thank you for the blessing of your work. All love.

miller, he/him/they, in pa. glad to find friends from a few different states here.

Lauren Paulk, she/her, from If/When/How: Lawyering for Reproductive Justice, and from unceded Piscataway/Anacostian/Powhatan land in DC. It is bringing me joy to see Kris Billhardt’s name in this chat! :D

Hi, Misty (she/her), I work with NCEDSV. Happy to be here!

Josie St. John - She/Her - from Louisiana Coalition Against Domestic Violence. I am glad to be here!

Back at you, Lauren Paulk!!! Wow, great to be in the Zoom space with you!

Hi all, Anna Terwiel (she/her) from Trinity College

Saludos a todxs! Alexis Flanagan, she/ella from Nacotchtank/Anacostan land aka Bowie, MD. co-director at Resonance Network. Adding fresh arugula I harvested from the garden this morning to my eggs has brought me joy today.

If you have any questions for our panelists please use the Q&A feature at the bottom of your zoom screen or share them here in the chat.

Dang that was powerful thank you so much

Yesenia Gorbea, she/her, Futures Without Violence

Hey Y'all Cara Hare she/her from UChicago

Kate Vander Tuig - she|they - Futures Without Violence in Oakland, CA. So grateful for this conversation, for the speakers time, and for NNEDV for setting creating this space!

**snaps****

incredible thank you!

How would you deal with the argument, "but I know survivors who have benefited from the police and having the person who abused them 'locked up'"?

I’m not having issues hearing anything

Nan- do we have a break in the agenda? If not, I may need to dip out briefly for a biology issue :)

Thank you. I will turn my screen off so you know I am taking just 2 mins. I apologize. Will wait to respond to this question first.

Yaaas, how safety became services.

In disability services, safety has been used to justify segregation.

Conflict as Property: https://transformharm.org/conflict-as-property/

thank you for the link

defintely

thanks, Becky!

cancel culture

DAMN

👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

Yes!!

!!!!!!!

!!!!!!!!!

“Safety became a service” 🤯👏🏿💯

that!

Sorry there is no captioning, but we are recording it, and will send out the recording.

“We are not here to keep the non-profit running; we are here to end violence.” POWERFUL

What do we do about Robert Kelly. That man doesn’t want to change.

!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

So true!

And abusive partners deserve to heal, too

Dr. Tien Ung has had talks on moving from Mandated Reporting to Mandated Supporting

Just doing a time check that we have 33 minutes left :)

particularly in the child welfare system

can you all talk concretely about some approaches that are promising to protect survivors of significant violence and child abuse? We know what doesn't work but can you talk about some of the approaches you have seen work in the days or months after violence?

More about the API Chaya Natural Helper program: https://iexaminer.org/api-chayas-natural-helper-model-from-local-brilliance-to-national-and-international-impacts/

Thank you ^^

I hate to leave this FABULOUS discussion. THANK YOU ALL. SueO

Bye Sue O! Sending love and gratitude.

I think we assume this system MUST be working for some people somewhere, but how many of us have actually seen it work well for any survivor? The emperor has no clothes.

^^^nope

I have to log off but thank you for this amazingly rich conversation!!

Yes, Alisa. We can't replace police with social workers because we have already deputized social work with its own form of coercive and deadly state power.

YESSSSSS!!!

What role do you see people who use violence in their relationships playing in transformation?

12 minutes left

Helpful resource for folks: https://www.defendsurvivorsnow.org/make-connections.html

https://we-govern.org/

transformharm.org for more reading and resources

we have to reclaim our imaginations!!

For Misty Grow re your question about mandated reporting: http://lgbtqipv.org/wp-content/uploads/2017/02/CBLC-Mandatory-Reporting_Final-Report.pdf

if people want that re-imagining circle, I will make it happen

^^^

yes please, I want that and im sure many other folks I know would like it as well! thank you Nan!

5 minute mark

yes please! so grateful to you all for this conversation

Yes, Nan.

I would love re-imagining space!

Rachel Caidor 💜💜💜💜💜 yes fo this!

I am hearing a lot of appetite among our membership for re-thinking criminal legal solutions to violence... What they want support on is what does that practically mean and what do they do with survivors who come to them now who are in immediate danger.

That sounds great

Yes, shifting where our funding and resources come from too.

Love Shira’s fundamental questions and strategies!

Thank you Nan, Alisa, Beth & Shira! So grateful for all of your clarity, wisdom, leadership & love!

Yes, Alisa! Thank you for saying that.

i need you to write them down: fundamental questions and strategies

Thanks to all- my imagination is waking up

Fantastic discussion, Nan and panelists!!! Yes, love your point, Alisa. Survivors have endless creative strategies - service providers have channeled these ideas and energy into narrow service/policing options.

hope this was recorded. going to need to send to some people :)

THank you for teaching us all so brilliantly and beautifully!

Yes, this is being recorded and will be available!

More resources: www.transformharm.org

This has been such a rich discussion! Thank you Nan, Beth, Shira, and Alisa!

I'm not sure if this is the specific resource that Alisa and colleagues created that Beth was referring to.... but I'm excited to read this! https://survivedandpunished.org/wp-content/uploads/2018/06/survived-and-punished-toolkit.pdf

Interrupting Criminalization Project

Thank you, Nan, Alisa, Beth, Shira, Kassamira, Deb, Meinkeng and Resonance Network for this - let’s continue to imagine, strategize, and implement.

Survived and Punnished

It is so frustrating that we did get away from this “first work”. Thank you Beth.

Love & Protect

Love with Accountability Book

Revolution will not be Funded Book

Beyond Survival Book

www.transformharm.org

Mixtape series https://freedomlifted.thinkific.com/courses/just-practice-mixtape

Yes, to a return to the wisdom of 45 years ago!

Inspired and energized! Thanks to all of you for your leadership, loving work, and struggle. <3

Thank you everyone! This was an incredible panel.

Thank you all so much!

thank y'all so much

Thank you all so much for your incredible wisdom. Honored to learn from y'all!

Thank you so much!

Y'all are amazing- thank you for the time & space!

thank you!

thank you!

Thank you!

Thank you for this great discussion!

Thank you so much all. This was so refreshing and energizing.

Thank you!

thank you all for your time and insight!

Thank you, this was incredible.

yes! love the pop up conversation idea!

Thank you so much! PLease more of this!

yes please come back *prayer hands emoji*

thank you all for this amazing convo, re-energizing & a vision for our collective future

Thanks to everyone.

deep thanks for all that you inspire. eager to tumble forward.

Thank you so much! What an amazing discussion. I am fired up.

Thank you Beth, Shira, Alisa, and Nan! Re-imagining circles led by survivors most impacted by violence, survivors in prison, all generative ideas, thank you!

This was wonderful!

Thank you so much!

Thank you so much for your time. This has been very insightful.

thank you so much

thank you very much!!

Thank you so much!

goddess

Thank you sooooo much!

Make a plan! Vote!

Thank you all so much!!

Thank you!

Thank you all!!!!!

thank you all!